Backstage with the Best of Friends

Local Band Makes Its Final Appear­ance on July 11, 2010
l to r: Alan Towle, Sandy Towle, Sam Miller, Marylin Dwyer, David Towle, Kurt Dwyer and Skip Gray
By Sharon Lakey
The evening was love­ly on Danville Green, a bless­ing after the recent high heat and humid­i­ty. Alan Towle and his young helpers arrived at 5:00 to set up for the 7:00 final con­cert of The Best of Friends, a coun­try band that has been enter­tain­ing crowds for the past 26 years. He moved nim­bly between an assort­ment of amps and speak­ers and wires that lit­er­al­ly filled the bandstand.
The rest of the band mem­bers arrived around 6:00.  White shirts, embroi­dered with black eagles, were hand­ed around on hang­ers. After chang­ing into them, mem­bers hov­ered over Sandy Towle, who had mul­ti­ple black scarves draped around her neck. Alan pro­duced an old check-box wrapped with a Vel­cro strip that con­tained small gold, sil­ver and turquoise clasps. When thread­ed through the clasps, the ties com­plet­ed the neat coun­try look. Hats and instru­ments were donned and tuned and after a final group por­trait, the band was intro­duced by Susan Tall­man of the Pope Memo­r­i­al Library.
And the music began for one last con­cert: Alan Towle on rhythm and vocals; Sandy Towle on sound; Sam Miller shar­ing lead gui­tar and vocals; Marylin Dwyer on vocals and tam­bourine; David Towle on drums and vocals; Kurt Dwyer on bass; and Skip Gray shar­ing lead gui­tar and vocals. Their final pro­gram reflect­ed the tastes and spot­light shar­ing that has been a hall­mark of the group.
D              It’s Good to be Back Home Again (Marylin and Alan)
A              Auc­tion­eer Song (Alan)
A              Stand by Your Man (Marylin)
E              Lovesick Blues (Sam)
A              Trashy Women (David)
A              Fugi­tive (Skip)
D‑E          Good-heart­ed Woman (Alan)
D              Jam­bal­aya (Skip)
G              Down That Lost High­way (Sam)
A              Mamma’s Hun­gry Eyes (Marylin)
A              455 Rock­et (David)
D              If My Nose Was Run­ning Mon­ey (Alan)
A              Down at the Twist &Shout (Alan and Marylin)
F              Whis­per­ing Hope (Marylin)
D              Ever-chang­ing Woman (Skip and Sam)
A              Big Boss Man (David)
E              Chan­til­ly Lace (Sam)
E               I Don’t Look Good Naked Any­more (Alan)
D              Mama Tried (Skip)
C              What’s Your Mama’s Name (Marylin)
C              On the Road Again (the band’s theme song)
It was an appre­cia­tive audi­ence and over too soon–bittersweet, for many shall miss them.
All this start­ed way back in ‘73 on a snow machine trail. On the way to Jim­my Roy’s cook­out in South Danville, Kurt and Marylin Dwyer met up with Ron and Barb Hill and their friends Alan and Sandy Towle.  On the way back through Danville, Kurt and Marylin stopped at the Towle’s. “We just hit it off,” said Marylin. That bud­ding friend­ship took on a pub­lic per­sona in the form of a band that, accord­ing to Alan, played 44 gigs a year in its hey­day. Through the years the four core band mem­bers stayed togeth­er, solic­it­ing oth­er musi­cians to join where more voic­es and instru­men­tals were needed.
The idea of cre­at­ing a band sprout­ed dur­ing hunt­ing sea­son. “Oh, deer huntin’ is big doin’s around here,” said Alan. A bud­dy and his sons would bring their gui­tars up every year and they would jam, rem­i­nis­cent of the way Alan used  to play and sing in high school when he and his friend sang 50’s style music. “We did all the Ever­ly broth­ers,” said Alan.
Soon, his new friend Marylin joined in the singing, and besides being a lot of fun, the ses­sions start­ed to sound pret­ty good. They draft­ed Kurt into the mix on bass as things pro­gressed. And, because every band needs a sound engi­neer, Sandy agreed to take on the job. As she puts it, “I was paint­ing the back side of the barn while they were paint­ing the front.” Their first live per­for­mance was Kurt’s par­ents 50th wed­ding cel­e­bra­tion ; they have a copy of the check for their first pay­ing job–$100–a wed­ding recep­tion for the Belknap’s held at the Lin­coln Inn in 1988. “The band real­ly start­ed cookin’ in 1990, when Sandy and I bought a one-ton truck to trav­el in,” said Alan.
To keep a band togeth­er for that long  is no small feat, almost unheard of. “Every band has to have a leader,” said Alan, “and for us it was Marylin and me. If some­one didn’t like the way things were going or how we per­formed, we took the hit.” The two of them would meet togeth­er two or three times a week to plan per­for­mances and take care of the busi­ness side of the band.
In plan­ning per­for­mances, the two would make an effort to share the spot­light. “If one of the guys liked a cer­tain song, we would let them car­ry it,” said Alan. Marylin would type up the planned pro­gram, so, when the band showed up once a week to prac­tice in the Towle’s base­ment stu­dio, they knew which music was to be played and in what key. In this way, prac­tice was pro­duc­tive as well as per­for­mances smoothed with no lag between songs.
The busi­ness side of Best of Friends includ­ed pur­chas­ing equip­ment with the band’s funds. Alan remem­bers the $2400 they spent on a drum set that had been played by Kris Kristof­fer­son. “We bought it from a music store  in Burling­ton. Kristofferson’s equip­ment didn’t arrive and they had to rent it for a con­cert they were play­ing there.” The band owns all the per­for­mance equip­ment like amps, mics, sound mix­ing board, head­sets and uni­forms. “We’re tough­est on dress,” said Alan. All uni­forms are pur­chased, laun­dered, pressed and put on just before per­for­mances. After per­for­mance, off they come before load­ing them back in the truck with all the oth­er equipment.
They each bought their own per­son­al instru­ments, though. Alan loves his left-hand­ed Peavey Mile­stone 12-string. “It was hand­craft­ed for me at the research and devel­op­ment depart­ment at Peavey elec­tron­ics. It’s one of a kind.” Kurt plays an unusu­al one-piece Peavey DataBass.
A com­mon per­for­mance includ­ed a first set of an hour, a ten minute break, then three more sets of 50 min­utes apiece. They would usu­al­ly play from 9:00 to 1:00, load up and head for home. “Some­times, we’d get home as late as 3:00 in the morn­ing,” said Alan. Mind you, they did this with full time jobs on the side. Kurt remem­bers com­ing home at 3:00 a.m. one morn­ing and get­ting an “on call” job call from EHV. “I was home about 15 min­utes that night,” he said, shak­ing his head.
They most enjoyed play­ing for dances. “When the dance floor is full and every­one is sweatin’ and hootin’ and hollerin’–then we know we are doing our job,” said Alan.
“There was strange one, though,” remind­ed Kurt about the time they played and were paid for dri­ving through mis­er­able weath­er to play a dance in Jef­fer­son, New Hamp­shire. There, they per­formed for a sin­gle fam­i­ly and a cat. “We found out lat­er the town was boy­cotting that man for hir­ing some male strip­pers the week before,” said Alan.
Alan lit up remem­ber­ing the his best gig ever, a wed­ding recep­tion held at the Canaan Fair­ground.. “You know, every­thing was right that night. When I backed the truck up to the stage, it was the per­fect height. Equip­ment off, easy. For the bar­be­cue, the father of the bride had ordered real mesquite wood from out west…” Marylin and Sandy smiled and chimed  in, “But Alan most­ly liked the bar­maids dressed in fish­net stock­ings!” He didn’t deny it.
But their most favorite per­for­mance of the year was always the Danville Fair. “The biggest audi­ence of the year,” said Alan. “And we like to play for peo­ple we know.”
“I’ve had a won­der­ful time,” said Marylin, speak­ing for the band as well as her­self. “I’ve loved the places we’ve gone and the peo­ple we’ve met.


To link to a video, fea­tur­ing pho­tos from the evening’s per­for­mance accom­pa­nied by Alan’s orig­i­nal song, click here.


To link to a video, fea­tur­ing pho­tos from the band’s past per­for­mances accom­pa­nied by Marylin’s orig­i­nal song, click here


This arti­cle was first pub­lished in the August, 2010, issue of the North Star Month­ly.

  

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